Lovelorn is a process of loss in terms of psychological experience. We will inevitably suffer a series of pains. In addition to physical pain, some people will experience hallucinations and even suffer from depression. However, it is much more normal for men who have lost love. Why are women suffering mostly after a lovelorn?
Coming out of the shadow of love is not an easy thing. Lovelorn is a process of loss in terms of psychological experience. We will inevitably suffer a series of pains. People who are deeply in pain often experience depression, and they will experience depression, powerlessness and anxiety, as well as eating and drinking. Disorders and sleep disturbances are accompanied by a decline in memory and concentration, slow movement, and dramatic changes in body weight. Some people even experience hallucinations and even suffer from depression.
The American “Psychiatry” magazine published a scientific research report on the difference in pain perception between men and women in lovelorn. The study shows that women feel more pain than men when it comes to breaking up, because the emotional upheavals that women experience after breaking up with a man they love can alter their brains more easily.
The study focused on women between the ages of 18 and 40. The researchers analyzed women who had been romantically involved for at least 24 weeks, and whose relationship broke down around 16 weeks. These women had been unable to shake off the shadow of their relationship after breaking up with a loved one, causing psychological problems. Using high-precision magnetic resonance imaging to monitor the activity of their brain cells, the researchers found that scans of brain cell activity when they were caught up in painful memories were less pronounced than when they recalled other people with little emotional connection. A very big change has taken place. Their brains experience very intense grief, sometimes affecting their ability to live.
Research suggests that the reason why women feel more pain than men when a relationship is broken is because the cells in the brain regions that produce depression are much more active in women than in men.
In fact, there are indeed relevant research statistics showing that the proportion of women suffering from depression is 2-3 times that of men. And according to Korean media reports, about 70% of depression patients are women. The Institute of Psychology, Chinese Academy of Sciences has also combed more than 80 Chinese and English literatures from all over the world that have been published before, and found that the Baker Depression Scale (Note: The Baker Depression Scale is a commonly used tool to measure depressive symptoms) When measuring the general population, women do have higher depressive symptoms than men.
Regarding the phenomenon that women are more likely to be psychologically hurt and more prone to depression due to emotional contusion, in addition to the above-mentioned cell activity in the brain region that produces depression in women is much greater than that in men, there are at least the following three views.
The first point of view is physiological theory. This theoretical point of view is somewhat similar to the analysis of brain cell activity. However, it refers to the differences in reproductive and developmental functions between men and women. For example, the most important thing is the difference in hormone levels, which leads to differences in the brains of men and women. Studies have shown that there are differences in the processing of emotional information between male and female brains. However, whether this difference increases the odds of depression in women has not been uniformly demonstrated.
The second point of view is psychological theory. It believes that the “socialization” direction of the two genders in the process of growth is different, resulting in psychological differences between men and women. To put it simply, women will be raised to be gentle and obedient as they grow up, followed by a personality that is prone to develop self-confidence and a low sense of competition. Second, the ways in which men and women perceive and respond to negative events are also very different. When faced with intimacy and interpersonal problems, women are more inclined to pay attention to emotional factors. They are more likely to expose their sadness, need the maintenance of intimacy more, and are more inclined to think about their own emotional misfortune. On the contrary, when men encounter problems, they are more reluctant to express their emotions and are accustomed to blaming others. If they encounter emotional problems, they are more likely to use alcohol or even provocative attacks to others to transfer and ease their inner pain.
The third point of view is sociological theory. The theory suggests that women are more likely to suffer from emotional failure than men because of a combination of gender roles and social conditions. Women are in a subordinate position in the overall history of social development and are often limited to the family. Their ability to mobilize social resources is not as good as that of men, and they are more likely to obey the “rule” of men, thus reducing their chances of contacting others. A better survival is more likely to lead to self-suppression, which will reduce women’s self-worth and hurt women’s self-esteem. In this way, superficial compliance and inner anger are prone to more conflicts, and when the true self is not clear, the pain will be more intense. So, depression in women is intrinsically linked to unequal sex relationships.
In addition, we should also see that, compared with men, women who are in the pain of lovelorn are more willing to express their emotional pain, and are more willing to seek help from the outside world to solve their pain. The objective reality that women’s depression rate is higher than men’s – men are not not depressed, but can’t express or dare not express. Related statistical studies have shown that the number of successful suicide cases caused by emotional problems in men is much higher than that of women. This not only explains the difference in the pain performance of men and women to a certain level, but also reflects that women have alleviated the serious consequences of pain to a greater extent through self-disclosure and seeking external support.
Neurological studies have shown that if a mental injury occurs, timely psychological counseling can repair the damaged neural circuits in the brain. If the damage to the brain is caused by emotional problems, it is necessary and possible to receive psychological counseling to repair the damage in time.
It can also be said that women seem to be more vulnerable than men, but women care more about themselves, they know more about emotional problems, treat themselves kindly through emotional and psychological repair, and face and overcome emotional difficulties.