First, there are 4 ways we can try to practice body positivity, no matter how confident we are in our own bodies, that is, to accept, cherish and cherish our Rebuild body confidence (Barney, 2021).
1) Try to avoid judgement and view your body with gratitude
Be grateful for everything your body does every day: your lungs breathe, your heart beats, your brain guides you through the challenges of the day, your hands cook delicious meals, and your lips kiss a loved one.
Also, pay attention when you have extreme positive reactions to your body. Check to see if this joy is based on unhealthy or strict criteria, and if so, try to let go of those judgments and focus on accepting your body in the present moment – this is called “body neutrality”.
2) Set an example
You can encourage those around you to be positive about your own body as well. For example, before complimenting a friend on your weight loss success or having dinner with your family to discuss your diet plan, think carefully: Is “becoming thin” necessarily a body standard that everyone can apply and deserve?
3) Reach out to external sources of information that can help foster body positivity
Try checking out TV shows, magazines that appreciate bodies of all shapes, looks, and skin tones; also follow Instagram accounts, social media bloggers, etc. that share the same philosophy.
4) Keep repeating the practice of body positivity
Sex educator and researcher Emily Nagoski notes that we can adapt our body and fall in love with its unique beauty through active, repetitive practice.
“We can try to stand in front of the mirror and be as naked as possible. We look at ourselves in the mirror and write down whatever you like. Then do it again tomorrow and the day after, day after day.”
Second, we can take the initiative to receive more sex education.
We have to learn to find and use the resources around us to understand sexual knowledge and behavior scientifically.
For example, by reading health magazines, watching popular science documentaries or videos, or seeking help from professionals in the field of sex education and sex science…
In this way, we will learn more: there is no specific response that “should” be made during sex; some fetishes are actually very common and normal; not being able to orgasm often does not necessarily mean that there is something wrong with your body (Cohut, 2018).
When we have a more comprehensive understanding of the process of sex, the possible effects and consequences of sex, and sex itself, we will find that although many fantasies may have disappeared, we are still because of this “known” , We feel more secure about sex itself, so we are more likely to gain confidence in sex.
In addition, when necessary, you can confess your anxiety with your partner and seek solutions in communication.
According to a study of 142 couples in the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy (Jones et al., 2018), couples who were able to talk openly about each other’s sexual needs tended to have healthier, more fulfilling sex lives, while emotionally relationship satisfaction is also higher.
What’s more, studies have shown that talking about sex more often results in women having more orgasms in a relationship.
So, if you really want to live a “sexual” life with the other person, you might as well start a chat with the person you love. About your anxiety and anxiety, maybe the understanding and tolerance of the other person is to relieve anxiety. The good medicine ~.
It is worth mentioning that we can also find a sense of sexual confidence through “role-playing” on the bed.
Role-playing is seen by many as a way to spice up sex life, however, from the perspective of dramatic psychotherapy, the benefits of role-playing in bed do not stop there.
Studies related to drama therapy show that role-playing can improve people’s self-efficacy (Rønning et al., 2019). For people with low self-esteem and serious sexual anxiety, they can play an active, confident and generous role in their sexual life, and experience the experience that behaviors driven by such “personal settings” bring to themselves.
Sex therapist Caracciolo explains that role-playing can be an excellent indicator of feeling emotionally and physically safe with a partner, as exploring role-playing in bed is performed out of your own or your partner’s fantasies, which are often played out. Occurs when a person feels very safe and secure in a relationship. Therefore, it also helps to foster a sense of trust between you and your partner and bring you closer together.
Make love itself, should be a very happy thing.
When we decide to be “open and honest” with a loved one, what we expect is a blend of body and mind – equal and comfortable between us and our lover; no matter how violent the love is, the background is Peaceful, relaxed, stable.
And our relationship with sex should be to allow it to serve our pleasure, not to be restrained, controlled, or even the performer or reviewer of this activity.
May we all enjoy our sex life.