Each of us has a unique view of love: you’ll need a partner who doesn’t lie, and I’ll need a partner who doesn’t cheat. In addition to your own standards and knots, your significant other must possess seven qualities in order to have a full relationship with you. Because we love someone, we often overlook each other’s flaws. This is precious, but we must also recognize the principles that make a person a soulmate—those that strengthen the bond of love and lead to a happy and long life. Think of these seven qualities as the quintessence of a long and amazing partnership:
Generous
The first quality of a soulmate is generosity. Because building relationships requires financial coordination, don’t expect to accept the whole world with one silver plate. Nonetheless, your soulmate should provide unconditional help when you need it. Remember that generosity is not limited to material content; your partner should treat you with generosity, attention, love, devotion, and support over time. Genuinely generous people are rare, so if you find someone with these qualities, consider him a precious piece of gold.
Emotionally stable
Develop any relationship to build a lasting love bond that maintains inner peace, not a disordered mental state that forces you to ebb and flow. Your partner shouldn’t leave you emotionally exhausted to face the end of the day alone. To be an emotionally stable person, we should not be angry and excited, passionate and indifferent. Emotional disorders like this can put you on an emotional roller coaster, a real physical and mental illness.
Determination
A person’s determination to pave the way for success in life can have a positive impact on a relationship. As long as both partners encourage each other’s lofty ideals, personal determination can lead to healthy strides in the relationship. Choose people who work hard to create a good life for both of you, but who also encourages you to live a wonderful life. I have seen many spouses who give up their careers to obey the wishes of the other half. Over time, such a relationship will crack, and the sacrificer will sooner or later be exhausted.
Sensitive
Find a sensitive partner. When I say sensitive, I’m not talking about some sentimental wailing! I’m referring to those who feel their surroundings – those who feel your needs through intimacy. Be careful to stay away from people who ignore your feelings; you will find yourself telling them the same thing over and over and they will go in and out of their ears. One of the noblest qualities you can find in a soulmate is that he knows what you need before you even get the chance to speak.
Will take care of herself
The way others treat you reflects the way they treat (or abuse) themselves. If your partner self-destructs, how can you expect them to treat you well? If they don’t care about their family, job, family, health, or appearance, they certainly can’t give you the care you want and deserve. Choose those who are responsible for themselves and who will take care of themselves, and they will naturally push themselves and others to give you the same care.
Commitment
A lasting spousal relationship is the deep, committed bond we crave—not the dewy marriage that comes and goes. You have to find a partner you can rely on for a long time; someone who not only wants to spend your life with you, but who understands the hard work, compromise and sacrifice. It’s so stupid to get tangled up with someone who won’t give up easily. When you meet a mate who has made a lifelong commitment to you, and who lives up to that commitment, he is your soulmate.
The worldview is the same
Only two people with the same world view can have a long-lasting relationship. They need to share the same ideals, perspectives and mindsets about the future. If one party wishes to live alone in an apartment without children and no daughters, while the other wishes to live in a big house with a large family, the relationship is bound to fall apart! There is of course always room for compromise, however, in order for the relationship to work well, both spouses must have the same plan for life. That relationship is bound to change over time, with one partner taking a very different life path than the other. The point is that both spouses have the same plan for the future, no matter how slow the respective changes may be.
No one is perfect, but in order to maintain a lasting relationship, our partners must possess certain qualities that we desire. Follow these seven qualities to find a lover and you will meet your soul mate.