First of all, let's talk about what is "impotence"
We should replace “impotence” with a more specialized term – “erectile dysfunction”. The academic definition of “erectile dysfunction” is this: the inability of the penis (at least 6 months) to achieve and maintain adequate erection and a satisfying happy life. This definition tells us three things: the time requirement is at least six months, the inability to achieve or maintain an erection, and the inability to achieve a satisfactory life. In other words, only if the above three points are met at the same time can it be called “erectile dysfunction”.
For example, if a man has a bad erection, but his and his partner’s well-being is not adversely affected by it, then that’s not a problem, and it doesn’t need to be defined as a “disorder.” Unfortunately, for those who are keen on penetrative sex, a good erection is necessary for both partners to have a happy life.
Why is there a "can't get up" situation?
Problems with erectile function can be divided into “organic” and “psychological” reasons. These two types of reasons often affect each other, making the problem of “hardness” even more difficult!
The organic causes of erectile dysfunction can be divided into endocrine problems, neurological problems, arterial problems, venous problems, problems caused by aging and diseases. When you see a variety of professional words, you may also feel the head. They are all grown up. In fact, there is no way or need for everyone to understand what is going on in these situations. The determination of these problems can only be determined by going to the hospital for examination. However, we can usually make some adjustments in our lifestyle to reduce the risk of these problems, such as smoking less cigarettes, drinking less alcohol, exercising more, sleeping well…
In addition, psychological reasons are often the most common, which also means that we can control and adjust for these types of problems. The psychological causes of erectile dysfunction are very complex, and can be roughly divided into individual cognitive causes and partnership causes.
Personal cognitive reasons, such as frustration and anxiety caused by failed sexual experiences, “impotence” phobia caused by lack of sex education, and operational anxiety caused by high expectations for sexual performance.. ….partnership problems such as resentment of partner infidelity, diminished sexual interest in partner, anxiety caused by fear of partner dissatisfaction or complaints…
The psychological reasons are actually very easy to solve. However, many partners are not good at “sexual communication”, so that it is difficult to find the reasons for various sexual problems. Often under great pressure “to work hard”, and as a result, blame the partner, and even quarrel because of this, so that the problem is not only unresolved, but also deteriorates the partner relationship, which further affects the activities of both parties in bed play, thus falling into the vicious circle of “one hard to find”.
How to find the cause of the problem?
First of all, we can refer to the definition of “erectile dysfunction” to determine whether there is a problem with men’s erectile function. If this happens only occasionally, it is not a terrible thing, and there is no need to tangle, otherwise, it will be There may be more problems; if the situation is indeed like “erectile dysfunction”, then we can again determine whether the “disorder” is organic or psychological.
In fact, most of the friends diagnosed with “erectile dysfunction” are psychological and organic. The girl has already said that “it will be hard after giving her husband’s mouth”, which also shows that her husband has erectile nerves There is no problem with the conduction pathway, and the corpus cavernosum also has a normal expansion function. The problem is that it becomes soft and cannot be maintained. This shows that their problems are largely psychological.
Another method that can be used to determine whether there is organic erectile dysfunction is the “nocturnal penile erection test (NPT)”. In the sleep state at night, the penis increases in androgen concentration and urine fills the bladder. Under the influence of physiological factors such as increased internal pressure, four to five spontaneous erections will occur, and many men will also have morning erections when they wake up in the morning.
Since men generally receive fewer external distractions, both “nocturnal erections” and “morning erections” are good ways to test for organic erectile dysfunction in men. However, nocturnal erections are also related to sleep status, and men may not have morning erections when they wake up in the morning if they are not well rested.
If there are organic factors in erectile dysfunction, you can go to the hospital for corresponding examinations to determine what is wrong with the body, which may include but not limited to some of the diseases we mentioned.
If there is no problem with erectile function, we need to find the answer from the psychological level. It may be caused by a problem in the relationship between husband and wife, “I don’t lift it”, it may be caused by poor sex skills, resulting in loss of sexual interest, and it may be caused by sexual mismatch. There is no pleasure at all. It may be that the time interval for love is too short for the man to get out of the “refractory period”, or it may be that the man does not love the woman under him at all (try another man?)