The sex life between husband and wife is not only for the purpose of having children, but also an important factor to promote the relationship between husband and wife. But after a long time of marriage, some couples will be indifferent to sex, and some even have no sex for months or years. A number of sex therapists in the United States have reminded such couples to understand the following things and try their best to “return” their sex life.
You don’t have “sex interest”, and the other half will gradually lose “sex”. Kimberly Anderson, a California-based sex therapist, believes that if you’re less sexually demanding or less sexually pleasurable, your partner will definitely notice. If this trend continues, the mood of the other half will be affected. Sex is a matter of two people. If the “sexuality” is out of sync for a long time, it will affect the relationship between husband and wife. This requires asexual couples to pay attention. In addition, the other person may realize your loss of libido earlier than you, so if the other person brings up the problem, don’t ignore it, but face the real problem and find a solution together.
The longer you are asexual, the harder it is to recover. The longer a sexless marriage lasts, the weaker the sex drive, and vice versa. Sex is the best aphrodisiac, the more frequent, the more passion. Sex is like an engine, it can make the body produce more sex hormones, make you like sex, and see sex as a kind of enjoyment.
Restart sex, the sooner the better. “I meet couples every day who say they don’t know how to ask for sex, and they’re worried that it will cause an argument, so the two end up keeping their mouths shut,” Anderson said. These couples find that it’s better to talk about sex than to talk about it. The emotional hurt and anger that may be brought about are not as easy as choosing asexuality. One way to talk about sex with your partner is to tell them that you value your sexual health and marital happiness. Because having sex on a regular basis is good for both physical and mental health.
The longer you are asexual, the harder it is to recover. The longer a sexless marriage lasts, the weaker the sex drive, and vice versa. Sex is the best aphrodisiac, the more frequent, the more passion. Sex is like an engine, it can make the body produce more sex hormones, make you like sex, and see sex as a kind of enjoyment.
Restart sex, the sooner the better. “I meet couples every day who say they don’t know how to ask for sex, and they’re worried that it will cause an argument, so the two end up keeping their mouths shut,” Anderson said. These couples find that it’s better to talk about sex than to talk about it. The emotional hurt and anger that may be brought about are not as easy as choosing asexuality. One way to talk about sex with your partner is to tell them that you value your sexual health and marital happiness. Because having sex on a regular basis is good for both physical and mental health.
Don’t run away, work hard. Eating healthy and working hard are goals we often mention. But few people work hard for harmonious sex, and may even make various excuses to avoid sex, such as shouting tired or in a bad mood. In fact, couples only need a little “Mars” to ignite their passion for sex. It is recommended to give yourself a positive cue every day, such as “I’m in good shape today, I’m going to give my body some joy.”
To start sex again, there must be an adaptation process. Couples who stop sex for a period of time may feel a little awkward when they restart sex. This is normal. Don’t give up, and you will gradually adapt to it.
Don’t ignore kissing. Sex therapist Sharon Chavez said: “When couples have less sex, there is usually less touching and kissing. I like to encourage couples to kiss because both kissing and sex stimulate the ‘pleasure center’ of the brain. Kissing It’s an important sensory activity for couples that promotes intimacy, and our mouths are a neglected erogenous zone, and kissing can give you high levels of sexual pleasure.”
Plan a passionate date. One way to get out of a sexless marriage is for the two of you to plan a “sex date.” On a first date, it might just be some physical contact or naked cuddling in bed together, no mention of sex. It doesn’t matter, take one step each time and enjoy the process.
Change it up. Many couples enter asexuality because they are tired of years of constant sex. Sex is like eating, if it is too monotonous, people will have no desire. So we need to create some variety in our sex life that brings excitement and satisfaction to both parties. Couples can make 3 to 5 different “sex menus” each, and each has the opportunity to choose a sex position once a week. Talking about sex every day is also a key to igniting passion.
Practice concentration. Before sex, you can lie still in bed for a few minutes and focus on experiencing your physical and mental state and breathing. Focusing on the present moment will help you put aside trivial matters and troubles and enter into the mode of enjoying sex.