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My name is A, I am 20 years old this year. It has been more than a year since I broke up with my boyfriend. After the breakup, I found my first “sex partner” in my life. There is a problem that is bothering me right now, my family concept makes me afraid that I will become promiscuous. When I was a teenager, I was warned by my parents against having sex, but now as an adult, I never seem to be sure exactly what is and isn’t “slutty.”
I know if I ask my friends around, they will give me a simple answer, a simple number, but I don’t think it’s the answer I want, I want to know exactly how many sexual partners a person has Being defined as a “slut”, should I regret it? Or do I need to figure out how many sex partners I should have from now on?
But casual sex is not derogatory in my opinion. On the contrary, in today’s world, it is a matter of pride for both men and women. So my understanding is that when someone calls someone a “slut” or a “slut” or “a stallion”, it’s not targeting someone, it’s just highlighting their failure to find a buddy. In other words, everyone aspires to be a slut without being labeled a slut.
Back to our question, how many sex partners will officially make you a slut? On Quora, a guy solved the problem with a formula.
x = number of sexual partners you have
y = number of sexual partners of the other person
z = some number that is too much for you
If y > x + z then y = slut or scumbag
if y < x + z then y =loser
Whatever the value of x is, it’s a “just right” constant. It is this constant that determines whether you are a slut or not in ta’s evaluation criteria. After all, one might think 10 is acceptable, but 11 is downright filthy, and that casual sex partners are inherently “slutty,” so there’s no definable answer at all.
In fact, it is difficult for you to know how many sexual partners other people really have in real life. A lot of women end up relying on this because they have the same concerns as you – lying. Research shows that to avoid looking lewd, women admit to having fewer sexual partners than they actually are, although they may not be satisfied with the number, while men are more likely to exaggerate their numbers to make themselves appear more attractive force.
So fundamentally, “sluts” have nothing to do with numbers, but motives and situations.
If you’re just selfish and want some material reward, or you feel like your life is so empty and want to fill or get revenge with pointless sex, or you think it’s cool to have sex “like a man” , even if you don’t like and care about the person who is mingling with you, then whether you are a man or a woman, you are a “slut”.
But if you love sex and are responsible for your body and the people you sleep with, who cares how many sex partners you actually have? Sex should be the pleasure of exchanging with each other under the premise of agreeing with the safety of adults. You can have stories with many people you like, and that is not the label of slut.
So, I want to tell A, don’t put sexual awareness and morality on opposite sides of the scale, you can have morality and you can have different sexual experiences.
It’s a lot of irresponsible and dishonest idiots who have a lot of unsafe sex that give “promiscuity” a bad name, so those good boys/good girls who have a lot of good sex should do this even more Be honest and respectful.
I have a lot of friends around who can’t even tell me the number of sex partners I have so far, but I think they are still a good person, someone who can take an oath with a Bible in their hands when they get married. As long as you think that every sex partner is about a passionate experience and not just for being on your sex experience bar. Then there shouldn’t be such a silly question.
So, enjoy the beautiful world.