“In the beginning, the psychological needs were fine, but the physical needs were quite difficult. In fact, my needs were quite large, and I could solve them by myself during the empty window. At the beginning, the more I used them, the less satisfied I became. I started to buy sex toys, each of which A common or strange toy. At that time, I was very satisfied. It seemed that I didn’t need a man to release and satisfy my desires. But the further back I went, the emptier I became. The bottom was filled, but my heart was empty. At that time, I realized that what I needed was a man. A man with flesh and blood, who could fill my body and soul.”
“What I want is a hearty, mellow sex. Real sex! Later, I started to use various social software, I want to find the man I like. I believe that as long as I go out bravely, I will definitely find him I usually post back and post updates when I have nothing to do, and see what other people have to say. I can chat if I think it’s suitable, the scale is quite large. Basically, I experience it according to my own needs.”
“Just because of my age, I also have concerns. So I often take the time to get to know each other, see how he speaks, work and live, and how he dresses. After considering all aspects, I go back on a date. It’s not like going to the hotel as soon as we meet, but Talk to each other for a while, and only if you have a good impression of each other will you make an appointment next time.”
“How should I put it, dating a gun is like opening a blind box. I’m really satisfied when I meet a good boy. If I can’t make an appointment, it’s better to come by myself. In fact, I’ve been struggling in my heart all the time, and my instinct is actually My life shouldn’t be like this. There should be a normal relationship and relationship. But I can’t stand the temptation, I can’t control myself. Every boy gives me a new feeling, although not every one is good. But don’t try One time, never know what the next one will be. It’s a thrill that I can’t stop.”
“I tried to escape this life, but all failed. Then I figured out, how long can I escape? A month? A year? A lifetime? Eventually I released myself and stopped embarrassing myself. Sexual needs It is the most basic human need. The more you suppress it, the stronger his resistance will be. I am single, and I do this without affecting anyone. Life is already very tired, what about occasional indulgence? I am very calm accept it all!”
From my friend’s story, I could sense the struggle behind her decision. She is just the epitome of thousands of single men and women.
Whatever is real (existent) is rational, whatever is rational (existent) is real – Hegel
We often stand on the moral high ground to criticize all sex that has nothing to do with love, but ignore that sex itself can be the starting point of love. We use our sexual morality to restrain others, while our sexual impulses and desires are repressed and hidden, or expressed in a covert and secret way. People are bright in front of people, and “dirty” behind them.
We pit sex against love. And when sexual shame is unbearable, it masquerades as pride. Frequently, we rank love and sex, love over sex, and romanticize marriage and love. In an intimate relationship, you are ashamed to talk about sex, unable or unwilling to express your sexual needs, and even less able to participate in a rich sexual life. But often outside this relationship, when facing strangers, you can let go of yourself instead, which is probably the ultimate behind-the-scenes cheating or dating.
Years ago, I always thought that sex without emotion was trash sex, but after years of baptism, I gradually understood that the ultimate meaning of sex is not reproduction, not a by-product of love. It is our innate instinct and the best gift God has given us. It is the first vitality of life, and it is worth developing and starting! It leads to the truest, most vulnerable, and most powerful part of our lives.
We have to learn both how to love and how to experience sex. Love makes us learn tolerance and acceptance, and sex makes us mature and open-minded. Just about sex, both men and women must first learn to love themselves. It’s just sad that in modern society, it seems that more and more of us have lost the ability to love and be loved and become a hollow person. Love is a required course for human beings, and it is only by returning to relationships that value each other’s feelings that we can rebuild intimacy and sexuality.