In addition to the head, bisexual people also experience more diverse pleasures in the body.
A female interviewee said that when you have sex with a woman, you must have an orgasm. If a girl doesn’t orgasm, she doesn’t know when to stop. The implication is obvious.
Another male interviewee said that having sex with a woman is more discreet, while with a man, it is more straightforward and can try more.
It can be seen that, in addition to the expansion of the spiritual level, it can enrich and excavate physical desires, and it is also enough to make bisexuals proud.
With so many advantages, would you be tempted if you could freely choose your sexual orientation?
But, obviously, they don’t get all the benefits.
First, bisexuals have a hard time introducing themselves to others.
For bisexuals, introducing themselves to heterosexual friends, heterosexuals will focus on the “ah? You are gay!” part, and may get “homophobic” results.
When introducing themselves to gay friends, gays will imagine that although bisexuals will be with the same sex, under social pressure, they will still choose the most favorable position for themselves, and if necessary, disguise themselves as heterosexuals to get away with it.
Yes, unlike homophobia in heterosexual groups, “bisexual” fear can spread both in mainstream society and in the gay community at the same time.
This dilemma of being “excluded” often leaves bisexuals facing the problem of double coming out.
That is to say, they must have the courage to come out with heterosexuals and say that they like the same sex (at the same time), and they must also have the courage to come out with gays and say that they like the opposite sex (at the same time).
Therefore, most bisexuals choose to conceal their sexual orientation: avoid talking about their heterosexual relationships in the gay circle, and hide their homosexual orientation in the heterosexual group. (As a result, once dismantled, it highlights their negative label of “siding on the wall.”)
And, of course, family.
Parents won’t understand: “Bisexual”? Does that mean you like the opposite sex too? Then you get married honestly, what are you doing! waste time!
Because coming out is so tricky, denying yourself has become the norm for bisexuals.
They tend to adopt a “whatever relationship you are in, say who you are” strategy. If someone asks, try to explain again.
For example, a female interviewee said that she was gay when she interacted with women; when she interacted with men, she naturally became heterosexual (heterosexuals don’t need to specifically say that they are “heterosexual”, ha). And when she married a man, her friend asked in astonishment, “Huh? How do I remember you were dating a girlfriend before?” She confessed, “Actually, I’m bisexual.”
Ironically, because of the self-denial of bisexuals, the public is used to denying their real existence.
Even psychological researchers couldn’t find them, so they could only choose to find bisexuals willing to interview on domestic gay forums.
In other words, bisexuality, which should exist as an independent sexual orientation, can only be included in “homosexuality”.
“My friend thinks there’s no such thing as bisexuality, it’s all a lie. It’s either gays who pretend to be normal and don’t have the guts to come out, or heterosexuals who sneak into the circle and want to take risks and try new things, or maybe it’s something The bastard who wants everything but can never figure it out”
Second, bisexuals struggle to gain social acceptance.
In today’s society, people no longer make a fuss about “homosexuality”, but they still have a strong tendency to “monosexuality”.
People don’t think of bisexuality as an independent sexuality, they just think of them as confused prodigals who haven’t found a clear identity yet, or cowards who dare not admit to being gay.
Social identity is just as important as self-identity.
Even if bisexuals are proud of their sexuality, social and cultural attitudes towards bisexuality will undermine the strength of bisexuals and affect their living environment.
Psychologist Jo Eadie argues that public fear of bisexuality can be read as a fear of the breakdown of the gay/heterosexual binary system.
Bisexuality is denied because it is seen as a threat to those well-defined social positions.
Being considered a dangerous and uncontrollable force, there is a legitimate excuse for oppressing bisexuals.
Denial, misunderstanding, stigmatization…as we do with all novelties that can disrupt the established order.
Think about it, if society gives bisexuals enough tolerance so that they can all be honest about their sexual orientation, it would be a good thing for monosexuals.
We can also have more accurate relationship selections, can’t we?
Sexologists believe that “sexual orientation” is a continuum from absolute homosexuality to absolute heterosexuality.
Monosexism, by creating the illusion that “people only like one gender” (heterosexual or same-sex), ignores and distorts the middle ground of the fluidity of sexual orientation.
So, while bisexuals may not necessarily outnumber heterosexuals or homosexuals, culturally speaking, bisexual cultures may be more diverse than homosexuals and heterosexuals.
Self-awareness is one of the definitions of higher animals.
And one of the vices of the giant baby is to give up finding himself.
Hopefully, human civilization will not disappoint us.